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soft-skills
Instructions:
Answer 36 questions in 15 minutes.
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Match each statement with the correct term.
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This is a study tool. The 3 wrong answers for each question are randomly chosen from answers to other questions. So, you might find at times the answers obvious, but you will see it re-enforces your understanding as you take the test each time.
1. Even if you make the most of daily decisions - if someone can overturn them - you don't really have that much power
Veto power
Conflict
Key ingredients of forgiveness
Self-bolstering
2. Response to a realistic danger in past - present or future
Good liars
Forgiveness
Conflict skills & tips
Reactive jealousy
3. 'You have a reasonable right to tell me what to do and I feel compelled to do it.'
Expression skill
Legitimate power
Negotiation
Sources of Power
4. Positivity - Openness - Assurances - Social network - Sharing tasks - Sharing activities - Support - Conflict management - Avoidance - Humor
Coercive power
Relational devaluation
Relationship maintenance strategies
Accommodation
5. A decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with or hold in debt someone who has wronged you - Secure attachments are more likely to forgive
Referent power
Forgiveness
Reactive jealousy
Mismatch
6. Control of valuable resources - having a resource if other people want it - Principle of lesser interest (i.e. showing you have no interest) - You can get what you want elsewhere too
Coercive power
Mismatch
Expression skill
Sources of Power
7. Apparent decreases in others' regard for us
Reasons for being jealous
Relational devaluation
Referent power
Conflict
8. From a susrvey on causes of breakups - Autonomy 37% Similarity 30% Supportiveness 27% Openness 22% Fidelity 17% Togetherness 16% Equity 12%
Causes of breakups
Behavior control
Dialects
Relational evaluation
9. By changing your own behavior - you can influence the behavior of a partner E.g. romantic relationship
Betrayal
Informational power
Legitimate power
Behavior control
10. 'If you don't do what I want - I will punish you by X.'
Coercive power
Deceiver's distrust
Key ingredients of forgiveness
Self-reliance
11. High social skills - Not much to lose - An unattractive target
Mismatch
Forgiveness
Referent power
Good liars
12. Sincere apology and empathy from victim
Ostracism
Key ingredients of forgiveness
Dialects
Catching a liar
13. Occurs when someone's motives - goals - beliefs - opinions or behavior interfere with those of another - Preventing someone from doing/getting what they want
Dialects
Coercive power
Mismatch
Conflict
14. 'If you do what I want - I will give you X.'
Attributional conflict
Accommodation
Relational devaluation
Reward power
15. Hurtful actions by people we trust - Involves relational devaluation - Most intense hurt from people we love - Loyalty to multiple people (sometimes occur when people have the best intentions)
Instigating conflict
Sources of Power
Betrayal
Reward power
16. The degree to which others consider their relationships with us to be valuable
Referent power
Coercive power
Relational evaluation
Power strategies
17. 1. Direct - ask for what you want (more satisfied people/men) 2. Indirect - hinting or pouting (not as satisfied/women) 3. Unilateral - work alone (less powerful/women) 4. Bilateral - work together (more powerful/men)
Social power
Expression skill
Mismatch
Power strategies
18. Say your side and work toward a common solution - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well
Referent power
Dialects
Negotiation
Relational devaluation
19. Being ignored; cold shoulder - Used to avoid confrontation or calm down after conflict - threatens need to belong - leaves people angry and in the dark
Deceiver's distrust
Legitimate power
Social power
Ostracism
20. 'You have info that I need or want - so I will do what you ask of me.'
Fate control
Informational power
Social power
Relational evaluation
21. It is reproductively advantageous to keep outsiders from the relationship
Veto power
Behavior control
Reasons for being jealous
Conflict skills & tips
22. 'I love you - so I will do what you ask of me.'
Instigating conflict
Referent power
Deceiver's distrust
Conflict skills & tips
23. Giving a boost to one's self-esteem by doing something nice for oneself and thinking about one's good qualities
Reasons for being jealous
Relational devaluation
Relational evaluation
Self-bolstering
24. Fighting over whose account of an incident is right and whose is wrong
Reactive jealousy
Reward power
Sources of Power
Attributional conflict
25. Liars tend to view their deception as less serious than the recipient - Self-serving bias
Deceiver's distrust
Mismatch
Ostracism
Coercive power
26. The ability to influence the behavior of others and to resist their influence on us
Ostracism
Showing understanding skill
Betrayal
Social power
27. Acting constructively in the face of attack - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well
Self-bolstering
Negotiation
Accommodation
Conflict skills & tips
28. Involves efforts to 'stay cool' and avoid feeling angry or embarrassed by refusing to dwell on the unfairness of the situation
Key ingredients of forgiveness
Self-reliance
Good liars
Expression skill
29. Speak hesitantly - Higher pitch - Grammatical errors - Blink more often - Mismatch b/w facial expression and tone of voice - Know the person well
Deceiver's distrust
Reward power
Catching a liar
Sources of Power
30. Listen in a way that shows strong interest - Become the other person - Repeat the other person's partner's thoughts - feelings and concerns - Accept and make changes graciously
Power strategies
Showing understanding skill
Legitimate power
Coercive power
31. We fluctuate in our pursuit of different goals (opposing motivations) Examples include: Autonomy vs. connection (wanting to be alone but want to be close) - Openness vs. closeness - Stability vs. change - Integration vs. separation
Social power
Catching a liar
Dialects
Causes of breakups
32. 1. Criticism - demanding; derogatory as far as recipient is concerned 2. Illegitimate demands - unjust demands - 3. Rebuffs - one person appeals for a desired reaction but the other person does nothing - 4. Cumulative annoyances - builds up over time
Power strategies
Instigating conflict
Conflict skills & tips
Key ingredients of forgiveness
33. Think before you speak - Start by remembering what's good - Speak from your own POV - Talk about your feelings - Ask for what you want - Avoid trigger words - Be specific
Forgiveness
Key ingredients of forgiveness
Relational devaluation
Expression skill
34. When people lie to others - they perceive the recipient to be less trustworthy over time -'Everyone is like me - so you must be lying too.'
35. Be positive - Exercise gratitude - Don't have a conversation when you're angry - Be explicit about expectations - Avoid contempt (sarcasm and snarkiness) - Pick a neutral spot!
Mismatch
Conflict skills & tips
Negotiation
Legitimate power
36. A persona can unilaterally determine what will happen next E.g. parent-child relationship
Ostracism
Fate control
Betrayal
Negotiation