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Relationships

Subject : soft-skills
Instructions:
  • Answer 36 questions in 15 minutes.
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  • Match each statement with the correct term.
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This is a study tool. The 3 wrong answers for each question are randomly chosen from answers to other questions. So, you might find at times the answers obvious, but you will see it re-enforces your understanding as you take the test each time.
1. Apparent decreases in others' regard for us






2. Hurtful actions by people we trust - Involves relational devaluation - Most intense hurt from people we love - Loyalty to multiple people (sometimes occur when people have the best intentions)






3. Be positive - Exercise gratitude - Don't have a conversation when you're angry - Be explicit about expectations - Avoid contempt (sarcasm and snarkiness) - Pick a neutral spot!






4. A decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with or hold in debt someone who has wronged you - Secure attachments are more likely to forgive






5. Response to a realistic danger in past - present or future






6. Fighting over whose account of an incident is right and whose is wrong






7. Say your side and work toward a common solution - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well






8. 1. Criticism - demanding; derogatory as far as recipient is concerned 2. Illegitimate demands - unjust demands - 3. Rebuffs - one person appeals for a desired reaction but the other person does nothing - 4. Cumulative annoyances - builds up over time






9. When people lie to others - they perceive the recipient to be less trustworthy over time -'Everyone is like me - so you must be lying too.'


10. 'If you do what I want - I will give you X.'






11. 1. Direct - ask for what you want (more satisfied people/men) 2. Indirect - hinting or pouting (not as satisfied/women) 3. Unilateral - work alone (less powerful/women) 4. Bilateral - work together (more powerful/men)






12. From a susrvey on causes of breakups - Autonomy 37% Similarity 30% Supportiveness 27% Openness 22% Fidelity 17% Togetherness 16% Equity 12%






13. The ability to influence the behavior of others and to resist their influence on us






14. Even if you make the most of daily decisions - if someone can overturn them - you don't really have that much power






15. Acting constructively in the face of attack - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well






16. A persona can unilaterally determine what will happen next E.g. parent-child relationship






17. 'I love you - so I will do what you ask of me.'






18. Positivity - Openness - Assurances - Social network - Sharing tasks - Sharing activities - Support - Conflict management - Avoidance - Humor






19. Control of valuable resources - having a resource if other people want it - Principle of lesser interest (i.e. showing you have no interest) - You can get what you want elsewhere too






20. The degree to which others consider their relationships with us to be valuable






21. By changing your own behavior - you can influence the behavior of a partner E.g. romantic relationship






22. 'You have info that I need or want - so I will do what you ask of me.'






23. Giving a boost to one's self-esteem by doing something nice for oneself and thinking about one's good qualities






24. Listen in a way that shows strong interest - Become the other person - Repeat the other person's partner's thoughts - feelings and concerns - Accept and make changes graciously






25. Sincere apology and empathy from victim






26. Being ignored; cold shoulder - Used to avoid confrontation or calm down after conflict - threatens need to belong - leaves people angry and in the dark






27. Speak hesitantly - Higher pitch - Grammatical errors - Blink more often - Mismatch b/w facial expression and tone of voice - Know the person well






28. We fluctuate in our pursuit of different goals (opposing motivations) Examples include: Autonomy vs. connection (wanting to be alone but want to be close) - Openness vs. closeness - Stability vs. change - Integration vs. separation






29. Occurs when someone's motives - goals - beliefs - opinions or behavior interfere with those of another - Preventing someone from doing/getting what they want






30. Liars tend to view their deception as less serious than the recipient - Self-serving bias






31. High social skills - Not much to lose - An unattractive target






32. Involves efforts to 'stay cool' and avoid feeling angry or embarrassed by refusing to dwell on the unfairness of the situation






33. 'You have a reasonable right to tell me what to do and I feel compelled to do it.'






34. It is reproductively advantageous to keep outsiders from the relationship






35. 'If you don't do what I want - I will punish you by X.'






36. Think before you speak - Start by remembering what's good - Speak from your own POV - Talk about your feelings - Ask for what you want - Avoid trigger words - Be specific