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Subject
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soft-skills
Instructions:
Answer 36 questions in 15 minutes.
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Match each statement with the correct term.
Don't refresh. All questions and answers are randomly picked and ordered every time you load a test.
This is a study tool. The 3 wrong answers for each question are randomly chosen from answers to other questions. So, you might find at times the answers obvious, but you will see it re-enforces your understanding as you take the test each time.
1. Acting constructively in the face of attack - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well
Accommodation
Behavior control
Instigating conflict
Expression skill
2. Giving a boost to one's self-esteem by doing something nice for oneself and thinking about one's good qualities
Self-bolstering
Causes of breakups
Mismatch
Self-reliance
3. We fluctuate in our pursuit of different goals (opposing motivations) Examples include: Autonomy vs. connection (wanting to be alone but want to be close) - Openness vs. closeness - Stability vs. change - Integration vs. separation
Dialects
Relational evaluation
Social power
Ostracism
4. Even if you make the most of daily decisions - if someone can overturn them - you don't really have that much power
Behavior control
Veto power
Accommodation
Power strategies
5. 'I love you - so I will do what you ask of me.'
Referent power
Fate control
Conflict skills & tips
Negotiation
6. Think before you speak - Start by remembering what's good - Speak from your own POV - Talk about your feelings - Ask for what you want - Avoid trigger words - Be specific
Referent power
Instigating conflict
Self-reliance
Expression skill
7. High social skills - Not much to lose - An unattractive target
Good liars
Conflict skills & tips
Relational devaluation
Instigating conflict
8. Fighting over whose account of an incident is right and whose is wrong
Attributional conflict
Self-reliance
Legitimate power
Fate control
9. Hurtful actions by people we trust - Involves relational devaluation - Most intense hurt from people we love - Loyalty to multiple people (sometimes occur when people have the best intentions)
Mismatch
Coercive power
Betrayal
Showing understanding skill
10. By changing your own behavior - you can influence the behavior of a partner E.g. romantic relationship
Showing understanding skill
Behavior control
Veto power
Relationship maintenance strategies
11. Be positive - Exercise gratitude - Don't have a conversation when you're angry - Be explicit about expectations - Avoid contempt (sarcasm and snarkiness) - Pick a neutral spot!
Deceiver's distrust
Conflict skills & tips
Showing understanding skill
Catching a liar
12. Response to a realistic danger in past - present or future
Reactive jealousy
Reward power
Power strategies
Expression skill
13. From a susrvey on causes of breakups - Autonomy 37% Similarity 30% Supportiveness 27% Openness 22% Fidelity 17% Togetherness 16% Equity 12%
Expression skill
Good liars
Causes of breakups
Showing understanding skill
14. Sincere apology and empathy from victim
Key ingredients of forgiveness
Ostracism
Coercive power
Reasons for being jealous
15. Speak hesitantly - Higher pitch - Grammatical errors - Blink more often - Mismatch b/w facial expression and tone of voice - Know the person well
Catching a liar
Expression skill
Forgiveness
Fate control
16. Control of valuable resources - having a resource if other people want it - Principle of lesser interest (i.e. showing you have no interest) - You can get what you want elsewhere too
Informational power
Reward power
Sources of Power
Expression skill
17. 'You have info that I need or want - so I will do what you ask of me.'
Accommodation
Informational power
Attributional conflict
Conflict skills & tips
18. 1. Criticism - demanding; derogatory as far as recipient is concerned 2. Illegitimate demands - unjust demands - 3. Rebuffs - one person appeals for a desired reaction but the other person does nothing - 4. Cumulative annoyances - builds up over time
Self-bolstering
Relational devaluation
Instigating conflict
Betrayal
19. The ability to influence the behavior of others and to resist their influence on us
Behavior control
Negotiation
Attributional conflict
Social power
20. Say your side and work toward a common solution - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well
Ostracism
Negotiation
Behavior control
Reactive jealousy
21. It is reproductively advantageous to keep outsiders from the relationship
Ostracism
Reasons for being jealous
Conflict skills & tips
Relationship maintenance strategies
22. Occurs when someone's motives - goals - beliefs - opinions or behavior interfere with those of another - Preventing someone from doing/getting what they want
Conflict
Referent power
Self-reliance
Self-bolstering
23. Apparent decreases in others' regard for us
Instigating conflict
Coercive power
Negotiation
Relational devaluation
24. Being ignored; cold shoulder - Used to avoid confrontation or calm down after conflict - threatens need to belong - leaves people angry and in the dark
Accommodation
Ostracism
Good liars
Sources of Power
25. A persona can unilaterally determine what will happen next E.g. parent-child relationship
Reactive jealousy
Coercive power
Instigating conflict
Fate control
26. Positivity - Openness - Assurances - Social network - Sharing tasks - Sharing activities - Support - Conflict management - Avoidance - Humor
Relationship maintenance strategies
Sources of Power
Mismatch
Key ingredients of forgiveness
27. Involves efforts to 'stay cool' and avoid feeling angry or embarrassed by refusing to dwell on the unfairness of the situation
Self-reliance
Expression skill
Power strategies
Fate control
28. Listen in a way that shows strong interest - Become the other person - Repeat the other person's partner's thoughts - feelings and concerns - Accept and make changes graciously
Relational devaluation
Self-reliance
Dialects
Showing understanding skill
29. Liars tend to view their deception as less serious than the recipient - Self-serving bias
Negotiation
Power strategies
Mismatch
Sources of Power
30. The degree to which others consider their relationships with us to be valuable
Deceiver's distrust
Causes of breakups
Relational evaluation
Key ingredients of forgiveness
31. 1. Direct - ask for what you want (more satisfied people/men) 2. Indirect - hinting or pouting (not as satisfied/women) 3. Unilateral - work alone (less powerful/women) 4. Bilateral - work together (more powerful/men)
Power strategies
Self-bolstering
Legitimate power
Dialects
32. 'If you do what I want - I will give you X.'
Ostracism
Conflict skills & tips
Reward power
Sources of Power
33. 'If you don't do what I want - I will punish you by X.'
Power strategies
Deceiver's distrust
Coercive power
Informational power
34. When people lie to others - they perceive the recipient to be less trustworthy over time -'Everyone is like me - so you must be lying too.'
35. A decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with or hold in debt someone who has wronged you - Secure attachments are more likely to forgive
Forgiveness
Relationship maintenance strategies
Expression skill
Betrayal
36. 'You have a reasonable right to tell me what to do and I feel compelled to do it.'
Key ingredients of forgiveness
Reactive jealousy
Legitimate power
Showing understanding skill