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Relationships

Subject : soft-skills
Instructions:
  • Answer 36 questions in 15 minutes.
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  • Match each statement with the correct term.
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This is a study tool. The 3 wrong answers for each question are randomly chosen from answers to other questions. So, you might find at times the answers obvious, but you will see it re-enforces your understanding as you take the test each time.
1. High social skills - Not much to lose - An unattractive target






2. The degree to which others consider their relationships with us to be valuable






3. Apparent decreases in others' regard for us






4. Fighting over whose account of an incident is right and whose is wrong






5. Even if you make the most of daily decisions - if someone can overturn them - you don't really have that much power






6. From a susrvey on causes of breakups - Autonomy 37% Similarity 30% Supportiveness 27% Openness 22% Fidelity 17% Togetherness 16% Equity 12%






7. We fluctuate in our pursuit of different goals (opposing motivations) Examples include: Autonomy vs. connection (wanting to be alone but want to be close) - Openness vs. closeness - Stability vs. change - Integration vs. separation






8. The ability to influence the behavior of others and to resist their influence on us






9. Hurtful actions by people we trust - Involves relational devaluation - Most intense hurt from people we love - Loyalty to multiple people (sometimes occur when people have the best intentions)






10. When people lie to others - they perceive the recipient to be less trustworthy over time -'Everyone is like me - so you must be lying too.'


11. 'If you do what I want - I will give you X.'






12. 'I love you - so I will do what you ask of me.'






13. 'You have info that I need or want - so I will do what you ask of me.'






14. Control of valuable resources - having a resource if other people want it - Principle of lesser interest (i.e. showing you have no interest) - You can get what you want elsewhere too






15. A decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with or hold in debt someone who has wronged you - Secure attachments are more likely to forgive






16. Giving a boost to one's self-esteem by doing something nice for oneself and thinking about one's good qualities






17. It is reproductively advantageous to keep outsiders from the relationship






18. Being ignored; cold shoulder - Used to avoid confrontation or calm down after conflict - threatens need to belong - leaves people angry and in the dark






19. Acting constructively in the face of attack - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well






20. Speak hesitantly - Higher pitch - Grammatical errors - Blink more often - Mismatch b/w facial expression and tone of voice - Know the person well






21. Say your side and work toward a common solution - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well






22. Sincere apology and empathy from victim






23. A persona can unilaterally determine what will happen next E.g. parent-child relationship






24. Be positive - Exercise gratitude - Don't have a conversation when you're angry - Be explicit about expectations - Avoid contempt (sarcasm and snarkiness) - Pick a neutral spot!






25. Response to a realistic danger in past - present or future






26. Positivity - Openness - Assurances - Social network - Sharing tasks - Sharing activities - Support - Conflict management - Avoidance - Humor






27. Liars tend to view their deception as less serious than the recipient - Self-serving bias






28. 1. Criticism - demanding; derogatory as far as recipient is concerned 2. Illegitimate demands - unjust demands - 3. Rebuffs - one person appeals for a desired reaction but the other person does nothing - 4. Cumulative annoyances - builds up over time






29. 1. Direct - ask for what you want (more satisfied people/men) 2. Indirect - hinting or pouting (not as satisfied/women) 3. Unilateral - work alone (less powerful/women) 4. Bilateral - work together (more powerful/men)






30. 'You have a reasonable right to tell me what to do and I feel compelled to do it.'






31. Occurs when someone's motives - goals - beliefs - opinions or behavior interfere with those of another - Preventing someone from doing/getting what they want






32. By changing your own behavior - you can influence the behavior of a partner E.g. romantic relationship






33. Involves efforts to 'stay cool' and avoid feeling angry or embarrassed by refusing to dwell on the unfairness of the situation






34. Think before you speak - Start by remembering what's good - Speak from your own POV - Talk about your feelings - Ask for what you want - Avoid trigger words - Be specific






35. Listen in a way that shows strong interest - Become the other person - Repeat the other person's partner's thoughts - feelings and concerns - Accept and make changes graciously






36. 'If you don't do what I want - I will punish you by X.'