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Relationships

Subject : soft-skills
Instructions:
  • Answer 36 questions in 15 minutes.
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  • Match each statement with the correct term.
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This is a study tool. The 3 wrong answers for each question are randomly chosen from answers to other questions. So, you might find at times the answers obvious, but you will see it re-enforces your understanding as you take the test each time.
1. A decision to give up your perceived or actual right to get even with or hold in debt someone who has wronged you - Secure attachments are more likely to forgive






2. From a susrvey on causes of breakups - Autonomy 37% Similarity 30% Supportiveness 27% Openness 22% Fidelity 17% Togetherness 16% Equity 12%






3. Think before you speak - Start by remembering what's good - Speak from your own POV - Talk about your feelings - Ask for what you want - Avoid trigger words - Be specific






4. We fluctuate in our pursuit of different goals (opposing motivations) Examples include: Autonomy vs. connection (wanting to be alone but want to be close) - Openness vs. closeness - Stability vs. change - Integration vs. separation






5. 1. Criticism - demanding; derogatory as far as recipient is concerned 2. Illegitimate demands - unjust demands - 3. Rebuffs - one person appeals for a desired reaction but the other person does nothing - 4. Cumulative annoyances - builds up over time






6. Even if you make the most of daily decisions - if someone can overturn them - you don't really have that much power






7. Apparent decreases in others' regard for us






8. A persona can unilaterally determine what will happen next E.g. parent-child relationship






9. By changing your own behavior - you can influence the behavior of a partner E.g. romantic relationship






10. Fighting over whose account of an incident is right and whose is wrong






11. Say your side and work toward a common solution - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well






12. Hurtful actions by people we trust - Involves relational devaluation - Most intense hurt from people we love - Loyalty to multiple people (sometimes occur when people have the best intentions)






13. Liars tend to view their deception as less serious than the recipient - Self-serving bias






14. 'You have info that I need or want - so I will do what you ask of me.'






15. 1. Direct - ask for what you want (more satisfied people/men) 2. Indirect - hinting or pouting (not as satisfied/women) 3. Unilateral - work alone (less powerful/women) 4. Bilateral - work together (more powerful/men)






16. Being ignored; cold shoulder - Used to avoid confrontation or calm down after conflict - threatens need to belong - leaves people angry and in the dark






17. The degree to which others consider their relationships with us to be valuable






18. 'If you don't do what I want - I will punish you by X.'






19. High social skills - Not much to lose - An unattractive target






20. Be positive - Exercise gratitude - Don't have a conversation when you're angry - Be explicit about expectations - Avoid contempt (sarcasm and snarkiness) - Pick a neutral spot!






21. Speak hesitantly - Higher pitch - Grammatical errors - Blink more often - Mismatch b/w facial expression and tone of voice - Know the person well






22. Listen in a way that shows strong interest - Become the other person - Repeat the other person's partner's thoughts - feelings and concerns - Accept and make changes graciously






23. 'You have a reasonable right to tell me what to do and I feel compelled to do it.'






24. 'I love you - so I will do what you ask of me.'






25. 'If you do what I want - I will give you X.'






26. Positivity - Openness - Assurances - Social network - Sharing tasks - Sharing activities - Support - Conflict management - Avoidance - Humor






27. Control of valuable resources - having a resource if other people want it - Principle of lesser interest (i.e. showing you have no interest) - You can get what you want elsewhere too






28. Acting constructively in the face of attack - Involves direct and indirect approaches as well






29. Occurs when someone's motives - goals - beliefs - opinions or behavior interfere with those of another - Preventing someone from doing/getting what they want






30. The ability to influence the behavior of others and to resist their influence on us






31. When people lie to others - they perceive the recipient to be less trustworthy over time -'Everyone is like me - so you must be lying too.'


32. Response to a realistic danger in past - present or future






33. It is reproductively advantageous to keep outsiders from the relationship






34. Giving a boost to one's self-esteem by doing something nice for oneself and thinking about one's good qualities






35. Involves efforts to 'stay cool' and avoid feeling angry or embarrassed by refusing to dwell on the unfairness of the situation






36. Sincere apology and empathy from victim